Here’s the list of alarm bells that signal: it’s worth working on self-esteem, inner core and responsibility for your life.
Main Signs That You are too Dependent on Someone Else’s Opinion
You refuse your own needs because of other people’s
If you have a reputation of a person who will always help, never give up, the soul of the company and the best friend in the world, analyze how much it costs you. Perhaps you will find that all around you have long sat on your neck and hung their legs because you are ready to save others, giving up your own plans and desires.
To help is normal and correct. If it suits a situation. Learn to say no.
You are constantly looking for endorsements
You will not be satisfied with the results of your work until someone praises you. This can apply to both work and routine. For example, you come back home to change clothes because your image collected a few likes on Instagram, although the reflection in the mirror pleased you five minutes ago.
Build your self-esteem on objective indicators, not on someone else’s approval. For example, the growth of sales will say much more about your professionalism than the praise of the boss.
You are trying to be what other people want you to be
In one of the scenes of the movie “The Runaway Bride,” it became clear that the heroine to said each groom that she loved the same egg dish as he did. As a result, the girl herself could not understand what she likes.
At a person too dependent on someone else’s opinion, the situation is even more serious. If you remake yourself at everyone’s service, it is time to look for the inner core and decide who you are.
You are constantly shifting responsibility for your life to others
On the one hand, everything is logical: the people around you affect your life so much, that your successes or failures depend on their words and actions. But this situation can hardly be called healthy.
A mature individual takes responsibility for his or her life and assesses each act in light of possible risks and consequences.
You take any opinion to heart, even if it is not constructive
You are not a hundred dollars to please everyone, but any reproach knocks you out of the rut. The comment “all humanities are stupid” can force you to quit your favorite job and go to the engineers, and you are already saving up for plastic surgery because someone in the queue said that he or she was standing “behind this nosy boy”.
You are surrounded not only by intelligent people, so some words of others just have to be ignored. To be honest, most of them have to be ignored.
You are afraid of being alone
Due to dependence on someone else’s opinion, you have a difficult situation with your own internal guidelines. Therefore, the opportunity to remain without an external moderator causes panic.
Make your opinion a priority for yourself, and fear will pass away.
You are afraid to do something on your own
You refuse an important project at work, postpone ideas for a hobby or business for later and have already forgotten when boldly started something new and interesting. You are driven by the fear of failure, which can flaunt your weak spots.
It’s normal to be wrong. Sometimes it’s worth to risk.
You feel responsible for the expectations of others
The dependent person perceives the expectations of other people as their own and is very afraid of not justifying them. And now you become a lawyer because your parents wanted so, marry urgently because friends say it’s time, and even in a cafe you order the same thing as your companion.
Other people’s expectations are not your problems.
Remember, that self-confidence is a very important quality for everyone, who wants to succeed in business, everyday life, or love affairs on